“At dinner the other night someone was talking about a couple who had recently divorced after a long, pretty happy relationship. The way it was described reminded me of that nice line from Gabriel Marquez "there are long loves and there are short loves." This sounded like a long love that had run its course and now was over. But as is so often the case at the end of marriages, things got ugly and acrimonious. Words were said, lawyers were hired, etcetera. The woman was a novelist and was working on a book in which she included things about their failed relationship and subsequent break up. Before the divorce was finalized the novel was published, the husband read it, and was both offended and deeply hurt by what she said. When he confronted her, she said ‘"As soon as we started this divorce you stopped being a person to me and now you're just material."’
Interesting.
Carroll's Blog entries are always interesting.
Is it necessary after a long marriage, when it finally ends, where most of the experience was positive, even romantic, lower one self and the relationship to the level of petty hates and barbs?
A writer can do the most harm in this situation. Issues the man was never aware of, situations through the years that he once thought were reconciled, now turn up in his ex-wife’s surly book. Did the man do anything to deserve this insidious behaviour? Probably not, but as the old saying goes,
“Hell hath no fury like a Woman’s scorn.”
See: http://www.jonathancarroll.com/blog1/archiveMain.html
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